WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT...

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WATCH AND PRAY

One day the books won't help, the tapes won't help, the blogs won't help, the sermons won't help, the friends won't help and the family members won't help. The only thing that will suffice will be your own study of God's word (2 Timothy 2:15). You'll will have to make a decision based on your own convictions. Whether you decide to join the family of God or stay in the family of God will depend on how you feel about what you have studied. If you are moved by the Holy Spirit to accept by faith the things He has shown you, you will respond by your actions. Life will not be the same. It's a sobering thought, but you will have to make a decision. Choosing to do nothing is also making a decision.


...How long halt ye between two opinions? if the LORD be God, follow him: but if Baal, then follow him (1 Kings 18:21).

ABUSER OR VICTIM?

During the course of our lives, we come in contact with many people. Some are nice to us and treat us with love and kindness, while others are mean and treat us very badly. The impact of people's treatment of us can affect our lives in different ways. They may influence us for a little while or for a lifetime. Obviously, if the treatment you received was good, you'll have fond memories of that person and want to continue in relationship with them, if possible. You'd think that the opposite would be true for someone who has treated you badly. Interestingly enough, as in the case of parents who abuse their children, the child may take the blame for the abuse and put that parent on a pedestal. [Read articles in PDF format about child brain development by Dr. Bruce Perry at: http://www.childtrauma.org/updates/ct_updates.asp]

For the the child who does have a desire to leave, he/she feels trapped in that abusive home and must endure the abuse until the opportunity presents itself for escape.

The sad reality is that abuse takes place in many homes. I won't even bother to quote any statistics becasue they's be incorrect. Abuse is not something the victim discloses easily. Because of sin and the devil's desire to destroy mankind from young, know that abuse is more widespread than you think.

This month's blog takes a glimpse on one area of abuse, verbal (emotional). You'll find information, resources and encouragement from the Word of God. Take a look at your own life. If you're a victim or have been and never healed, get help. If you're the abuser, STOP and get help! Break the cycles of unhealthy and unholy way of relating to each other. While you're going through recovery and pursuing a healthier and holier way, don't neglect to give God the glory and claim the victory through Jesus Christ. Thanks be to God who giveth us the victory through Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 15:57).

VERBAL ABUSE

The Evils of Angry, Hasty Words. --When you speak angry words to your children, you are helping the cause of the enemy of all righteousness. Let every child have a fair chance from babyhood up. The work of teaching should begin in childhood, not accompanied by harshness and fretting, but in kindness and patience; and this instruction should be continued through all their years to manhood and womanhood.

Let every family seek the Lord in earnest prayer for help to do the work of God. Let them overcome the habits of hasty speech and the desire to blame others. Let them study to be kind and courteous in the home, to form habits of thoughtfulness and care.

What harm is wrought in the family circle by the utterance of impatient words, for the impatient utterance of one leads another to retort in the same spirit and manner. Then come words of retaliation, words of self-justification, and it is by such words that a heavy, galling yoke is manufactured for your neck; for all these bitter words will come back in a baleful harvest to your soul.

Hard words beat upon the heart through the ear, awakening to life the worst passions of the soul and tempting men and women to break God's commandments . . . . Words are as seeds which are planted. [The Adventist Home, Ellen G. White, Pg. 438-439; Review and Herald Publishing)

[Read more at http://www.nisbett.com/reference/ah/ah71.htm]

Guidelines for Healthy Communication

Ephesians 4:29 - Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Ephesians 5:19-21 - Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Psalms 19:14 - May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.

Proverbs 15:23 - A man finds joy in giving an apt reply— and how good is a timely word!

Isaiah 50:4a - The Lord GOD hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary...

Matthew 12:36 - But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment

James 3:2, 8-10 - We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check... but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be.

Here is a wonderful website that gives guidance on healthy ways of communicating, especially with children:

http://www.restoration-international.org/article.php?id=18

SCHOOL'S IN SESSION

Life is a classroom filled with one learning experience after another. Since early August, students across the country have been returning to a new grade and for some, a new school. During the upcoming year, they’ll be exposed to information that may be beneficial or detrimental to their spiritual lives. Whether each student believes in the God of heaven does not matter because He does exist, and so does His enemy, the devil. On a daily basis, at any given moment, both are vying for the attention of your child—and for you as a matter of fact.

Look at the people around you or watch television and you’ll agree that everyone is either led by a spirit of good or evil. From the music and books to television and friends, they will be learning about life. You may have seen, Truth about Hip Hop already, and truth be told, any music not born of God is born of the devil. Visit - http://exministries.com/. WARNING!!! DON’T GO HERE IF YOU HAVE WEAK SENSIBILITIES LIKE ME. Whatever your taste, there’s a style of music designed to dull your spiritual senses. Ivor Myers, an ex-rapper, who made the choice to leave the music industry after landing a big contract, calls it musical sorcery. He details the sobering origins of some of the music that is hypnotizing our children (and adults) today. Visit -http://powerofthelamb.com/. Lest you think that other “less-urban” forms of music are ok, read African musician, Brian Neumann’s essay, “From Rock Music to the Rock of Ages” http://www.biblicalperspectives.com/rockbook/CH_14_NEUMANN.pdf. Here is what he says,

"In spite of contrary claims, no significant difference exists
between secular rock music and its “Christian” version. Why?
Simply because both share the same musical rhythm and are driven by the
same relentless beat. Contemporary Christian Music in its rock, rap, rave,
jazz, metal, or related forms shares the same accentuated, syncopated,
and persistent rhythm of the “rock beat.” Other aspects may also be shared,
but the beat is the real heart and soul of it. Irrespective of its lyrics,
Contemporary Christian Music that conforms to rock’s essential criteria in
any sense cannot be legitimately used for church worship. The reason is
simple. The impact of rock music, in whatever version, is through its music,
and not through its lyrics.

Some argue that so-called “Soft Rock” should not be placed in the same category as the other harder forms of rock. This is not true. A lot of soft rock, although slower in nature, still carries a consistent, syncopated beat and often overaccentuates it. Another important point to consider is the expression, atmosphere, and delivery of soft rock.

Lyrics sung in a breathy, over-sentimental tone suggest an atmosphere of love or lust between a man and woman. These hardly provide an appropriate medium to express love to a Holy God. I am not talking only about lyrics here, but also of atmosphere and tone. All words, whether spoken or sung, are delivered in a unique tone to convey a special intent.

Music designed to express love for Jesus should conform to what the Greeks call agape–love, which is unselfish, and not to what is termed eros–love, which is erotic and self-centered. When choosing our Christian music today, we have to exercise great care and discernment because not everything that comes with a Christian label attached to it is necessarily Christian. This is true even if it does not have a heavy beat."

Music isn’t the only influence that must be guarded with discernment. I’m sure that no one would argue about the evils of the Harry Potter series. Scripture says it plain, ‘Do not turn to mediums or seek out spiritists, for you will be defiled by them. I am the LORD your God.’ (Leviticus 19:31) and ‘And the soul that turneth after such as have familiar spirits, and after wizards, to go a whoring after them, I will even set my face against that soul, and will cut him off from among his people’ (Leviticus 20:6). This series has created a thirst in young people for power not of God.

As in the days of Noah, some people have chosen to drown out uncomfortable messages by riotously living (parties and sex) or slowly dying (television and
over-eating). Our children are learning from the lives we live. If we’re not
truly converted in our hearts, they’ll follow our example. Today is the day to choose whom you’ll serve—God or Satan. God wants you to have life and have it more abundantly (John 10:10). He’s not willing that any should die (2 Peter 3:9). Satan wants to kill you, and in the very least, to destroy your children and wreck your family. I plead with you—choose life.

VARIOUS AND SUNDRY ANNOUNCEMENTS

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September 7-15, 2007
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Heritage Singers
Sponsored by Worthington/Kellogg Foods

Saturday, September 8 at 6:00 PM

Sligo Park Adventist Church
7700 Carroll Ave.
Takoma Park, Maryland
http://www.sligochurch.org/

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Art Show & Sale
by Louis Gaither
(featuring Watercolor and Oil Paintings)

Sunday, September 9, 2007
12:00 - 4:00pm

Hyattsville Church Fellowship Hall
4807 42nd Place
Hyattsville, MD 20781
301-927-2080

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CHAIM TIME ENTERPRISES
Presents A
“BACK TO SCHOOL”
CLASS
FOR PARENTS


“FOOD FOR THOUGHT”
Using Nutrition To Boost Your Child’s Learning Potential

Learn From a Nutritionist Basic Meal Planning And Diet Strategies That Will Fortify Your Child’s Mind

September 17, 2007
6:00 pm

Glenarden Library
8724 Glenarden Parkway
Glenarden, MD 20706

To register for this workshop or upcoming classes,
call (301) 419-8087 or email chaimtime@gmail.com

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Segregation and Overt Racism in 2007

Read the story of segregation in Jena, Louisiana at http://www.colorofchange.org/jena/message.html

Support by signing the petition, financially supporting the defense fund and/or by attending the rally in Jena on September 20th.

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Festival of the Laity 2007

September 26-29, 2007

Orlando, FL

http://www.festivalofthelaity.com/

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Baltimore Book Festival

http://baltimorebookfestival.com/

September 28-30, 2007

Friday, 5-9pm

Saturday, 11am-7pm

Sunday, 11am-7pm

Location: Mount Vernon Place

600 Block North Charles Street

Baltimore, MD 21201

*in light of preceding article, use discernment

FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION...

The decisions you make today will not only affect you, but generations to come. What seeds are you sowing? Whether it’s a matter of health, finances, morals, etc., what you do today will reap a positive or damaging result in the future. Recently, the slogan, “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas,” inspired some pretty interesting advertisements. That kind of thinking drives many people to abandon sound reasoning and live for the moment, forgetting what Luke 12:2 says, “There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known.” Apply the thought to your own lives; your own family. What are you reaping today that was sown three or four generations ago and what are you sowing for the generations to come?

This month’s Blog encourages us to make wise decisions believing that “whatever a man [or woman] sows, that he [she] will also reap” (See Galatians 6:7,8). Spend some quiet time reflecting on your own life and the paths you've come; your family and the history they've made.

Thankfully, no one is without hope, if we’ve sown bad seed (gluttony, overspending, alcoholism, etc.) or reaped bad crop (obesity, debt, physical abuse), God’s word says that He is able to restore what the locusts have eaten… (see Joel 2:25). We can learn much from those who have lived longer than we have. Either we learn from their mistakes or follow their paths of wisdom. The guy many people admire for doing it all and having it all--Solomon--also gives us kernels of wisdom in Ecclesiastes that we can learn from. Check out his writings; it's not just good reading.

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17th Century Nun’s Prayer

Lord, thou knowest better than I know myself
That I am growing older and will some day be old.

Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking that I must say something

on every subject and every occasion.
Release me from the craving to straighten out everybody’s affairs.

Make me thoughtful, but not moody; helpful, but not bossy.
With my vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all,
But thou knowest, Lord, that I want a few friends at the end.

Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details;

give me wings to get to the point.

Seal my lips on my aches and pains.

They are increasing,

and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by.
I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others’ pains,

but help me to endure them with patience.

I dare not ask for improved memory,

but I ask for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness.
When my memory seems to clash with the memories of others,

teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.

Keep me reasonably sweet.
I do not want to be a saint – some of them are so hard to live with –

but a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the devil.

Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places,

and talents in unexpected people.
And give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so.

Source Unknown

Old School Rhyme

There was an old woman who lived in a shoe
She had so many children, she didn't know what to do
She gave them some soup without any bread
And whipped them all soundly and sent them to bed

New School Rhyme
Copyright 2007 Leuanna Matheson

There was a young woman who lived in a house
She had a few children and thank God, a spouse
She prepared healthy meals, made sure they were fed
And prayed with them nightly, before retiring to bed

WHAT NOT TO SAY TO CHILDREN

Stop crying! What are you, a baby? [Babies aren't the only ones who cry. Children have feelings too and they rarely cry for no reason. Discern the reason and address their need]

Do as I say and not as I do [As adults we should be modeling the life we expect our children to live, otherwise we're just being tyrants]

Do...or else! [I've learned that threats are not a good motivator for action. Behavior changes should be a willing choices that are made after the consequences have been lovingly foretold]

When your child points out an obvious double standard, you say.... When you become an adult, you can ..... [That statement teaches children that once they get older, rules don't apply. Don't be a hypocrite]

You are just like you father/mother [Very rarely is that statement meant as something positive. Remember that life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Speak life into your children's lives]

WHERE SAYINGS ORIGINATED FROM

• It was the accepted practice in Babylon 4,000 years ago that for a month after the wedding, the bride's father would supply his son-in-law with all the mead he could drink. Mead is a honey beer and because their calendar was lunar based, this period was called the honey month, which we know today as the honeymoon.



• In English pubs, ale is ordered by pints and quarts... So in old England, when customers got unruly, the bartender would yell at them, "Mind your pints and quarts, and settle down." It's where we get the phrase "mind your P's and Q's"

WHO ARE YOU MOST LIKE?

Ask yourself:

What did I get from my mother/father that I did not want?

What do I resent about my mother/father?

How what I got from my mother/father contaminates my relationships?

What do I love about my mother/father?

If my mother/father had 1 minute to live, what would I say to her/him?

Excerpt from an old episode of The Dr. Phil Show

SOWING HEALTHY SEEDS...

...FOR YOUR BODY

Breathe-Free Stop Smoking Seminar

Smoking and related diseases are one of the primary causes of premature death in Baltimore . The impact of these diseases disproportionately affects women and African Americans. The Miracle Temple Counseling Center is sponsoring a Breathe-Free Stop Smoking Seminar, a step-by-step plan to assist people of all ages to break free from the smoking habit in 8 days without the use of drugs or stressful procedures. The program begins on August 7, 2007 and will be held in the conference room of the Education Building at
100 S. Rock Glen Road Baltimore , Maryland 21229.

There is a minimal cost; however, scholarships are available based on need. People can register by calling Dr. Michael Reed of the Breathe–Free Program at (443) 414-9224 or (443) 801-4924.

web: http://www.miracletemple.net/
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...FOR YOUR MIND

Psalms 147:3 – “He healeth the broken in heart and bindeth their wounds”

Have you longed for peace. You’ve always heard that there’s more to life than
what you’re currently experiencing, but can’t seem to find it.

Far too many people have gone through life just existing and it’s worse for the
Christian because he/she knows that Jesus came that we might have abundant life.
But where is it?

The experiences from early childhood and even as far
back as birth, have shaped our thoughts and behaviors today. Oftentimes we react
to situations w/o understanding where our feelings come from.

If you're interested in facilitating or attending a small group in your area, check out, http://www.yourlri.com/.

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...FOR THE SPIRIT

Hosea 10:12 (NIV)
Sow for yourselves righteousness, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers righteousness on you.

Micah 7:18,19 (NIV)
Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy.
You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.

LOVE: THE GREATEST OF THESE (Part 2)

On July 22, God willing, we will celebrate six years of marriage. As in years past, I reflect on where we’ve come and how we’ve grown. Although it seems like a long time to me, I’m still humbled by the fragility of this particular institution and don’t take for granted each year we’re together. Thanks to numerous journals I’ve kept over the years, I’m reminded of our incredible journey—good and bad.

The apostle Paul learned through his own life struggles to be content in times of plenty and in times of want. I too, am still learning to do the same—to be content when there’s lots of love flowing between us, and when our love tanks are running on fumes. Through the good times, I’m keenly aware that at any minute we could be at odds or worst yet, at war. Recently, I’ve come to the realization that most conflicts can be traced back to the issue of love or lack thereof. Put another way most conflicts stem from feelings of rejection on some level or another.

With our willingness, we can learn to love or get the help we need, to overcome the obstacles that prevent love from flowing freely in our relationships.

Public Service Announcement: KEEP LOVE ALIVE

One of the best things you can do for love is nurture it. Like your car or your body, routine maintenance and regular checkups are beneficial for preventing breakdown. Attend a relationship workshop yearly, meet with other couples on a regular basis and schedule time together to discuss tough issues. Make your relationship a priority and you’ll see its health
improve.

CAUTION!PRACTICE AT YOUR OWN RISK :)

The following was inspired during our Anniversary trip to Niagara Falls last year. The result is a beautiful baby girl.

THE LOVE CHAPTER: KEY ELEMENTS OF INTIMACY

(Artistic Interpretation of 1 Corinthians 13)

What if we applied 1 Corinthians 13 to the Marriage Bed? We quote the verses at
our weddings and apply the principles to our daily interactions, but what if we
applied the following principles to the area of our relationship where God is
the furthest thing from our minds?

Be Patient – Take the time to enjoy each other. Savor each moment. Use your five senses of touch, taste, smell, hearing and sight to enhance the experience. (See Song of Solomon 1:2; 2:6; 4:11; 6:4 and 7:7-9)

Be Kind – Compliment profusely. Now is not the time to take note of, or verbalize physical imperfections. Be thoughtful in what you say. (See Song of Solomon
4:1-7; 5:10-16 and 7:1-5)

Envy Not – Be content and comfortable with who you are and the person to whom you're married. Don’t wish that you or your mate looked the way you or they did in college or envy what you think someone else must be enjoying. (See Song of Solomon 8:6; 7:10; 6:3 and 2:16)

Brag Not – Leave your past in the past. If you didn’t enter this marriage as a virgin or this isn’t your first marriage, don’t brag about the women's worlds you rocked or the men you brought to tears.

Puff Not – Allow room for growth and change. Don’t presume to know it all and
don’t assume that your mate likes what you like.

Don’t Be Rude – Respect each other’s temples and individuality. If your mate does not feel comfortable with something, don’t force him/her.

Don’t Be Selfish – Put each other’s needs first and you’ll both be satisfied. There’s no room for self-gratification in this arena.

Don’t Be Easily Provoked – Make room for mistakes and extend a little grace. Whether due to exhaustion, lack of knowledge or memory loss, your mate will not always please you. It’s ok! There’s always tomorrow.

Keep No Record Of Wrongs - Enjoy the here and now. Don’t rehash yesterday’s offense or the last time you had to extend grace while intimate.

Think No Evil – The songs “It’s Morning” and “Me and Mrs. Jones,” glorify adultery. Be honest in your heart w/God and your spouse, so that you come together with a clear conscience. (See Song of Solomon 3:1-5)


When you were a child, you played childish games. Leave the games
out. Don’t toy with each other’s emotions. If your mate hurts you,
don’t pout and threaten to take your good loving elsewhere. This union is
supposed to bring both of you face-to-face w/each other’s excellent qualities
and dark imperfections. No one knows you like your spouse. Have
faith in each other; Hope for the best in your marriage and let love win
out. (Song of Solomon 8:7)

Copyright 2006 Leuanna Matheson

SUGGESTED READING LIST

Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide To Resolving Conflict Without Arguing – Gary Chapman
To read about or purchase this book, check the link:
http://www.amazon.com/Everybody-Wins-Chapman-Conflicts-Marriage/dp/141430014X


Boundaries Face To Face: How To Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding – Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
To read about or purchase this book, check the link: http://store.cloudtownsendstore.com/bofatofabo.html


For men only A Straight-forward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women – Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn

Rescue Your Love Life: Changing Those Dumb Attitudes & Behaviors that Will Sink Your Marriage – Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
To read about or purchase this book, check the link:
http://store.cloudtownsendstore.com/reyololi.html

ANNOUNCEMENTS

LOVE: THE GREATEST OF THESE (Part 1)

"I LOVE YOU!" How many times in your life has someone said these words to you? How did these words make you feel? Did you believe the person who said them? Did you reject their words because you thought that you were not worthy of their love? Each and every one of us wants to be loved. If anyone says they don't care if they are loved, then you know immediately that they have been hurt so many times that they have put up a protective wall around their heart. God created us to love; to love Him, to love others and to love ourselves.

Along the way, we receive messages that damage our ability to give and receive love. This month's blog looks at these three avenues of love and comes in two parts.

LOVE FOR GOD

THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF LOVE

“…which is the great commandment in the law?: Thou shall love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind…Thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself" Matthew 22:36-39.

How do you love God? You don’t have to look far for the answer, because He’s already told us in John 14:15, “If you love me, keep my commandments”

Commandments 1 through 4 show us how to love God.

#1 – Do not put anything or anyone else above Him
#2 – Do not worship idols (inanimate objects)
#3 – Do not use the Lord’s name in an inappropriate or disrespectful way
#4 – Remember the Sabbath day and do not work or transact business on that day

Commandments 5 through 10 show us how to love others.

#5 – Treat your parents with respect and those whom God has placed in authority
#6 – Do not do anything that kills life
#7 – Do not engage in an extra-marital affair, either physical or emotional
#8 – Do not take what does not belong to you
#9 – Do not be deceptive with what you say or what you withhold
#10 – Do not desire other people’s possessions

LOVE FOR OTHERS

A CHRISTIAN'S CONFESSION AND PRAYER

“He that says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness even
until now. He that loves his brother abides in the light, and there is none
occasion of stumbling in him. But he that hates his brother is in
darkness, and walks in darkness, and knows not whither he goes, because that
darkness hath blinded his eyes.” 1 John 2:9-11

Before coming to my new church (a multi-cultural congregation), I didn’t realize that I was walking in darkness. The darkness had blinded my eyes and I didn’t know where I was going. Being in a predominantly one-race church, I didn’t have to deal with or worship with the people against whom I was prejudiced. Snap judgments were made about everything from their style of worship to the way they raised their children. I made disparaging remarks about them--God’s children—without realizing the shroud of darkness that surrounded me.

Lord, today I confess that I have hated my brother. That’s probably why it’s been difficult to receive his love toward me. Free me from the bondage of hate and prejudice. Open my eyes to the love that unites us. Open my heart to the love he has to give. Open my heart to your love that binds us (2 Corinthians 5:14).

LOVE FOR SELF

If you have issues with receiving love; If your parent abandoned you and you’ve never dealt with your feelings; If you seem to enter into relationship after relationship and your significant other keeps leaving you, then The Mode, Segment 2 of the Journey is for you.

10-week class: $40
Gas to get there: $4.10
Being able to enjoy healthier relationships: priceless

This class focuses solely on rejection and its devastating impact on our everyday thoughts, feelings and behaviors. The workbook and accompanying video series will give an understanding of how your feelings of rejection sets you up for failed relationships, anger, lack of self esteem, negativity and many other issues (excerpt from Life Renewal Institute website).

When: Wednesdays, beginning July 11 for 10 weeks
Where: Living Faith Ministries
10266 Battleview Parkway
Manassas, VA 20109
For Time: Call Sally at 703-331-3820
http://www.lfmi.org/html/registrations.shtml

"When we first married, Ron and I thought that everything was great. We
paid only two dollars for the marriage license and on our wedding night the
vending machine at our hotel gave us two cans of ginger ale for the price of
one! What a bargain. But the first snafu arrived on day five of the
honeymoon....."

If you’re interested reading the rest of Ron and Nancy’s personal story, click on the following link entitled Life Puzzles:
http://www.yourlri.com/blog.cfm

For further information check out:
"Overcoming Our Beginnings," on You Tube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y7xgiDrSKA

SUGGESTED READING LIST

Boundaries in Marriage – Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
To read a preview or purchase, click on:
http://store.cloudtownsendstore.com/boinmabo.html or better yet, borrow it from the library

Love and Respect – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
To read a preview or purchase, click on:
http://www.loveandrespect.com/content/e-store_popup2.php?ItemID=48

Just Enough Light For The Step I’m On – Stormie O’Martian
To read a preview or purchase, click on:
http://www.stormieomartiangifts.com/shop/item.asp?itemid=81

For Women Only – Shaunti Feldhaun
To read a preview or purchase, click on:
http://www.4-womenonly.com/book_detail.aspx?ISBN=1590523172

ANNOUNCEMENTS

SUMMER ACTIVITIES

FREE Hyattsville Church 75th Anniversary Weekend
July 13-14, 2007
4905 42nd PlaceHyattsville, MD 20781
301-927-2080
FMI Visit: http://hyattsville22.adventistchurchconnect.org/
Lunch on Saturday will be at Columbia Union College in Takoma Park.
To RSVP for lunch, call any number listed on the website. ALL ARE WELCOME!

FREE Summer Concerts
Bladensburg Waterfront Park
4601 Annapolis RoadBladensburg, MD 20710
301-779-0371; TTY 301-699-2544
6:00 – 7:30pm

FREE Anacostia River Boat TourJoin a park naturalist aboard a pontoon boat to search for birds and other wildlife.
No reservations needed for this FREE river tour.
April 15-October 31
Tuesdays-Thursdays, 12 noon-12:45 pm
Saturdays & Sundays 5-5:45 pm
FMI Visit: http://www.pgparks.com/places/nature/bladensburg.html

FREE Movies in Maryland
Union Station
Tuesday, July 3 (Charlotte's Web) & Wednesday, July 4 (Barnyard) @ 10:00am
For future schedule check :http://www.flexiblefamilyfitness.com/

More FREE Movies
Just key in your state for a theater near you
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SUMMERTIME

As we enjoy ourselves, let us remember that there's one out there who could care less about you having a good time. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8).

I included Wait on Him, because this summer will be the first summer that some families will be spending apart. Visitation will need to be worked out and court proceedings attended, but I wanted to offer a word of encouragement and hope for any married couple who has recently separated, divorced or who is thinking about either. Remember that nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37).

Lastly, you may be familiar with the NEWSTART Principles. I've modified them. If you WANT a FRESH start, check out the tips for a healty summer.

“Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart;
wait, I say on the Lord,” (Psalms 27: 14)

Year 1 of marriage was, or seemed rather, like the biggest mistake of my life. Year 2, a trial, but on the heels of year 3, I saw the hand of the Lord moving upon our hearts and minds.

I see why the divorce rate is so high among people who love each other; who care for each other and who are attracted to each other enough to have children together. The trials of this life beat us down enough, but when our sins and true selves begin to surface, fierce conflict ensues. Lovers begin to despise each other and friends become bitter enemies. It’s a bad state of affairs and much prayer is needed.

My heart is especially pained for the young people who marry with little, incompetent or no counseling. We are not prepared for the changes that will take place and feel betrayed by those who walked this road before us. There is a deception by the enemy to hide the rough roads that inevitably will come, so many suffer in silence. But Praise God, I see hope.

Prayer and information and sometimes pure willpower can save many marriages and restore some that have even ended. It cannot be done in our own strength, or with our own knowledge. We need to be open to the wisdom of the elders (1 Pet. 5:5). We need to pray (1 Thes. 5:17), we need to exercise sheer will (Phil. 2:13; Matt. 26:41) and we need God’s strength (2 Cor. 12:10).

Marriage is a blessing from God and a great privilege. Let us enjoy His gift and seek to bring Him glory in it.

W-A-N-T a F-R-E-S-H start?

• Water – Especially essential during the hot, humid months
• Air – A little fresh air does the lungs and the temperament well
• Nutrition – with “umpteen” barbeques, picnics or cookouts, gluttony is prevalent (Don't let your belly become your god)
• Temperance - "Enough is as good as a feast" (This doesn't just apply to food)
• Faith – Trust that God is working everything out for your good and his glory
• Rest – Longer days and shorter nights means less sleep, try to get some rest during the day
• Exercise – In some form or other, keep those muscles moving, especially the ones in your face (smile more)
• Sunshine – From Vitamin D to battling jet leg, the sun can be of great benefit in healthy amounts (For the entire article, go to http://www.amazingfacts.org/; click on Inside Report Magazine and scross to the newsletter titled, "The Power of Plodding" in PDF format)
• Hygiene – Shower with slightly warm water (this keeps you cool during the hot days); wash hands and face after coming in from outdoors; brush regularly

SINGLENESS OF HEART

Before I started dating, I thought that I was the perfect christian. In fact, I though that I was ready for translation. My time was spent between service-oriented church activities, work and spending time with loved ones. My biggest sin, as I viewed it, was procrastination. One could hardly think that I'd miss out on heaven for such a minor imperfection.

As I reflect on my life now and then, there was much more sin in my life than I realized. There was much more that I could have done to spread the gospel. I judged my life based on what I wasn't doing. Today I realize that a fruitful single life or Christian life for that matter is more about what you're doing, not about what you're not doing. We feel good saying, "I don't drink"; "I don't smoke"; "I don't use drugs"; "I don't....". The real question should be, "what am I doing for Christ?

I look back at my life and long for the time I had to myself to do as I pleased. I regret the time I spent in college making a fool of myself. Oh how I wish I could have shared with my friends and acquaintances about the love of Jesus. Paul was on it when he said that the married woman's heart will be divided between God and her husband. 1 Cor. 7: 25,26 states,

"Now regarding your question about the young women who are not yet married.
I do not have a command from the Lord for them. But the Lord in his mercy has
given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will share it with you. Because of
the present crisis, I think it is best to remain as you are." (NLT)

I can't say that to too many of my single friends because they think that I'm trying to keep them from the greatest thing on earth (marriage) or that I'm patronizing them in their singleness. But, I doubt that I could find five married women who would disagree with me that the apostle Paul was absolutely right.

This Month's Blog is dedicated to the singles who are the happiest people in the world according to many surveys and polls. Enjoy this time that you have to be "free to do what I want."

Single in Relationships--Rules to live

Don't date because you are desperate
Don't marry because you are miserable
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough to handle the consequences
Don't regress
Don't put your life on hold for Mr/Mrs.Right
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr/Mrs. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking

Single-minded toward's God

One of the greatest barriers to a fruitful relationship with God is misunderstanding of who He is. Many of us have gotten a distorted view of God based on the relationship with an important male figure in our lives -- our fathers. Chances are, whatever the relationship was between you and your earthly father, is the way you'll view your relationship with your heavenly father. If your earthly father was aloof, you'll see God as being aloof and hesitate to go to him in a crisis. If you father was your greatest cheerleader and champion, you'll see God as being your strength in the time of storm and be assured that there's nothing that you can't accomplish.

The Passenger seminar takes you on a journey of self- discovery that looks
at attachment styles and how they develop from our time in mothers womb and
forward. The Passenger seminar and small group follow up will give you an
understanding of how your beginnings and early attachments impact your life
today. Gender specific small groups are the key to unlocking the mysteries of
the past and opening the door to the promise of a brighter future. This is an
introspective and participatory part of your journey toward recovery and healthy
relationships. The small group workbook includes ten weekly lessons PLUS ten
chapters of educational material. This is the tool that you will use weekly as
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Single after Divorce

It breaks my heart when I hear of another couple separating or divorcing. I am deeply affected by it, especially if it's friends of mine or even people I'm mildly acquinted with. What makes two people so bright-eyed for each other one day and months or years later they can't stand to breath the same air.

From countless conversations, I venture to say that many of the conflicts stem from lack of knowledge. Not lack of knowledge about marriage, but lack of knowledge about oneself. That 's why I push so hard for the Journey Program by Life Renewal Institute. Were it not for the information I learned about myself, I may have gone down that road two years ago or worse yet, ended my life. I was so miserable. I even realized that my husband wasn't the source of my problems, it was my incapacity to cope with conflict and issues that arose in my life. I sought far and wide for a good counselor, someone to tell me what was wrong with me. Eventually I found out. As a matter of fact, I'm still finding out things about myself, but now I have to tools to deal with it. Of course none of this would be of any any value without the Holy Spirt's daily guidance.

Along with my open mind and people in my life that hold me accountable, my greatest source of counseling come from:

Jehovah Shalom (The Lord is Peace) - Judges 6:24

Jesus (The Prince of Peace, Counselor) - Isaiah 9:6

The Holy Spirit (Comforter or Helper) - John 14:16

& (Spirit of Truth) - John 14:17

Single after Death

According to 1 Cor. 7:39, 40 ...but if her husband is dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide...

Single in Parenting

To you, there’s nothing but commendation and admiration. You’ve taken on the task of two people—Homemaker and Breadwinner. Stay strong and motivated! Band together with other single parents and support each other. Be accountable to each other. Rely upon each other for childcare and free time. Align yourselves with an older couple to mentor you and tap into the valuable resource called grandparents.

Whether by choice or circumstance, you’ve stepped up and taken the responsibility for nurturing your precious offspring. You’re loved and recognized as a valuable part of our community—not to be neglected or taken for granted.

CHILDREN OF TODAY & TOMORROW

Earlier this month in the news, a father who was distraught over the end of his six year relationship, hung his two children to get back at their mother. What did his children do to him to deserve such a cruel death? As much as they drive us crazy, "cause water under our hearts" or temp us to jump through windows, they're not that bad. Nothing warrants the cruelty that adults inflict upon them. Children are just the result of our nurturing, mirrors of our behavior and products of our environment. If they curse, it's because they hear us cursing, if they're selfish it's because we're selfish, if they're violent it's because we expose them to violence.

Children are truly a blessing. For those that want to make it to heaven, Jesus says that we must become like little children. They have character traits that we should follow. This month's blog focuses on these precious ones that God has blessed us with. Let us endeavor to nurture them for His glory. Some are blessed with one, two or twenty and some have none. Even if you don't have any children, you still have a responsibility to nurture those with whom you have influence and not to injure them. Otherwise it'll be better that a millstone be tied around your neck and you be thrown into the midst of the sea (don't get mad at me, I'm just the messenger).

Freedom of Choice for Children

• With each child, I increased in wisdom. Each successive child received more of something I never had as a child—Freedom of thought. In simple things like meals, I had no options. I had to eat whatever was placed before me. The only options were either to eat with or without “lix” (a spanking or a beating in most cultures).

• Today, I'm learning how a little freedom of thought can be so beneficial for a child’s self esteem. As parents, our responsibility is not the think for our children, but to guide them as they figure out life for themselves. We have to teach them to make right decisions, yet we should not be quick to shield them the the consequences of their decisions.

• Too often, especially in authoritarian cultures, children are discouraged and most often punished for having ideas independent of their parents. This does a great disservice to children and ultimately cripples them for the challenges they'll inevitably face in life.
  

What my Toddlers Taught me about Marriage

1. Keep asking for what you want; Eventually you won’t have to repeat what you like or how you like it
2. Submission is easier when given willingly rather than forced
3. A genuine smile will most oftentimes yield a smile in return
4. Give loving and sincere affection even after being hurt, disappointed or offended; It’s the best display of forgiveness


Spirituality for Children

Three Angels Broadcasting Network (3ABN) has wholesome programming for the young and the young at heart. Their shows for children capture the interests of toddlers and preschoolers. Take a moment to browse their schedule, look up recipes or watch online at http://3abn.org/

5:00pm (EST) - Tiny Tots for Jesus

5:30pm (EST) - Kids Time

TOTAL BODY R & R

Monday I had one of those days that made me want to scream. It was partially my fault for not going to bed at 8:00pm. Cold Case and Without a Trace were coming on and since I’d missed them the week before, I felt that I was entitled to a little “me time.” So today in the midst of my draining day I thought, “today is the worst day of the rest of my life.” That thought gave me hope; it gave me something to look forward to, God willing I should live to see tomorrow.

Upon further reflection, my day wasn’t so bad. All I really needed was some sleep. For the month of March, I’ve posted a few suggestions for a little R&R for the mind, the body and the spirit.

For the Spirit - Comfort from God’s Word

You’ve been told to be grateful because others people’s misfortune are worse than yours. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my source of comfort to be other people’s pain. I prefer for my source of comfort to be the one who can effect change—the Lord. Here are some kernels of comfort from God’s word.

Lonely? Psalms 68:6 says, “God setteth the solitary in families”

Mystery in your life? Daniel 2:28 says, "There is a God in heaven that revealeth mysteries"

Lacking Financially? Deuteronomy 8:18 says, “But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is He that giveth thee power to get wealth”

Trouble Sleeping? Proverbs 3:24 says, “When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea thou shalt lie down and thy sleep shall be sweet”

Feeling Spiritually Dead? Amos 5:4 says, “Seek ye me and ye shall live”

No Heat for the winter? Ecclesiastes 4:11 says, “Again, if two lie together, then they have heat” (obviously you need to be married)

Doubt About Your Marriage? Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, “Two are better than one; because they have good reward for their labor"

Barren Womb? Matthew 19:26 says, “With God all things are possible”

Feeling Suicidal/Tired Of Your Life? 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all things are become new”

Feeling Misunderstood? Psalms 139:2,3 says, “Thou understandest my thought afar off and art acquainted with all my ways”

Feeling like no one's on your side? Romans 8:27 says, “And he that searchest the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God”

Feeling Ashamed? Psalms 3:3 says, “But thou, O Lord, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head”

For the Body - Scrambled Tofu (contributed by Cynthia Johnson, Nutritionist)

Ingredients:

Extra firm tofu (frozen then thawed and drained)
1/2 onion chopped
2 cloves garlic chopped
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1 stalk green onion chopped
Few parsley leaves chopped
Tumeric
Sea salt

Preparation:

Crumble tofu. Sauté the onion and garlic in olive oil. Add tofu and sauté for a few minutes. Add remaining ingredients. Once thoroughly cooked, add more of the seasonings as your taste buds desire. You can experiment with your favorite seasonings or fresh herbs.

Serve with your favorite bread or a nice honey-sweetened whole grain bread (e.g. Rudi’s). Spread a little Vegannaise (soy based mayonnaise) on the bread for an added taste explosion.

For the Mind – Arts and Crafts

Paint your own pottery at the Mud Hut. The Mud Hut is a neighborhood pottery-painting studio. They are located in Olney, Maryland. They have one of the largest selections of bisque in the area.

Have your birthday party or bridal shower here. Create personalized
gifts. This a great place to find a respite from the business of your day. Working with you hands to create something is quite therapeutic. It's also a great place to get together with some friends for an hour or two.

3231 Spartan Rd

Olney, MD 20832

(301) 260-8786

www.mudhutstudios.com

2007 Winter, Spring, Fall Hours:

Tuesday - Thursday: 12 - 8pm
Friday: 12 - 9pm
Saturdays: 10am -6pm
Sundays: Noon - 5pm

A CHRISTIAN'S TESTIMONY

A Christian’s Testimony

I visited your church the other day. The joy within me was so overwhelming; I had to share it with someone. I figured, why not share my joy with the whole congregation, after all, that’s why we’re here—to fellowship and praise the Lord for his wonderful works.

My joy was quenched however, well, not quenched, just suppressed until I could share it with others who were open to hearing about the goodness of the Lord. Your deacons and elders wouldn’t let me speak in front of the church, so I quietly went back to my seat and enjoyed the rest of the service. Like I said, my joy wasn’t quenched, I still worshiped the Lord through singing, the reading of scripture, the sermon and the appeal. I just wish I could have also worshiped through sharing.

By the way, all I wanted to share was the fact that I almost lost my home that I’d lived in for 6 years. I thought we were doing well. We had the usual tests and trials here and there, but nothing major—at least nothing compelling me to make church or prayer meeting a priority. Then September 11th happened and the rug was pulled out from under me. A drastic downsizing in my company, a pay cut, rising utility costs, a car accident that hospitalized me, and I was almost done for. The self-sufficient, resourceful Christian was struggling to keep food in the fridge, struggling to stay current with the mortgage, struggling to keep three kids in church school and the list goes on and on.

Well, PRAISE JEHOVAH, my kids are still in school, not church school, but a good enough public school. They have a place the come home to everyday. Their daddy has meals ready on the table and the temperature in the house is comfortable. I had to sell my Jaguar and pull most of the money out of my 401K. I’m now only working part-time at the same company, but Praise the Lord, they increased my hourly wage. When I’m not working or spending time with the children, I’m working on starting my own business.

I’m more grateful then ever for each meal that goes on the table, for each night I have to tell the kids not to have all the lights on in the house, for each A or B they bring home on their report card and for each mortgage check I’m able to write.

So, church family, please don’t take God’s blessings for granted. Don’t be ashamed to tell others what God has done or is doing in your life. Don’t just wait for the glamorous testimonies like, “God blessed me with a new car” or “we just closed on 5-bedroom house in Mitchellville,” or “I married a handsome doctor” or “I just got 6-figure job offer.” Rejoice and share all God’s blessings, the 1-bedroom apartment that’s roach free; the daughter that checked herself into a drug rehab program; the wife that broke off her affair and returned home; the son that’s refraining from pornography, the bible study that’s well attended by your neighbors, the accident that you caused, but no one was hurt, the routine physical that went well, the class that you should have failed, but the teacher gave you a C. Whatever it is, just share it. Don’t second-guess its value. Since God blessed, it’s valuable. JUST PRAISE HIM!

“Oh that men would praise the Lord for his wonderful works to the children of men”

Copyright 2005 Leuanna Matheson