PARENTS JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND

Parents really do understand.

They understand the issues that matter. Parents also experienced peer pressure, feelings of inadequacy, selfishness, joy, lonliness, fear, doubt, pride, anger, relief, etc.


Though they may not be as technologically savvy, that can learned, just like their children are learning. But that does not disqualify them and me, for that matter, from identifying with the human issues children face.


If we had listened to our parents and respected their age and experience more, we would have saved ourselves from many mistakes and enjoyed more of life.

Children always think they are smarter than their parents. Like the Children of Israel, they have to go through many painful experiences unnecessarily before they realize the wisdom that is available to them.


To the mother whose son is rebelling against the family, she should realize that rebellion began in heaven with Lucifer, then with Adam and Eve, then with Cain and has continued through the ages. 2 Timothy 3:2 & Romans 1:30 states that in these last days, disobedience to parents will be one of the major issues to be dealt with. Where can she turn? To God! She has to pray and fast for her child like never before. All day, throughout the day. It's a committment, but God hears the prayers of the surrendered parent.


Lastly, there's a quote that says "more is caught then taught." We model behavior to our children. I may not be able to tell my children what is a podcast or what to do with an ipod (because I really don't), but I can model character to them. In the end, character is what really matters.


Parents, give yourselves a break. You've been a child once and that experience is invaluable to your child. Don't be ashamed to share with your child your successes and mistakes. Let them know that your advice was not just pulled from the air, nor is it being used to beat them over the head. Let them know that you love them and are accountable to God for how you raise them.


Thanks Atiba for giving me something to think about and practice in my own family.


Leuanna
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This was a response originally published to the comments at
http://atibadesouza.blogspot.com/2008/06/parents-dilema.html